Nicole Davies

Hello! My name is Nicole and I am a Marine spouse and mother of three daughters, ages 16, 10, and 7. I have been a stay-at-home mom most of their lives while also pursuing my Master’s degree in Marriage and Family Therapy. In the past I have worked as a social worker for child welfare in the state of Pennsylvania. I have also taught preschool for ages 2.5 - 4. During my master’s program I interned as a therapist at an inpatient psychiatric hospital working with adults, teens, and kids. My ultimate goal is to become an independently licensed therapist. Our family has lived in Onslow County for 10 of the last 15 years, which has given my children a stability that is rare among military families. While NC has been my home for several years now, I am still a Yankee at heart! I will always choose a Philly cheesesteak over a pulled-pork sandwich. In addition to taking care of my family and my educational pursuits, I enjoy traveling to destinations near and far; a novel in which I can get lost; and chatting with friends over a good cup of coffee.

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First Jobs

What was your first job?  How old were you?  Do you remember how much you were paid?  I remember my first “real” job, meaning, a job where I had to apply and be interviewed to be hired, rather than doing some menial busy work for my mom’s office for some extra allowance.  I was fifteen and had to get a working permit in order to get a job at the mall.  I worked in a “high-end” candy store, where we boxed up various sold-by-the pound candies and even gift-wrapped for customers.  There was also a small ice cream freezer in the back where we sold Hershey’s ice cream in specialty cones.  …

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More sleep.

The American Academy of Pediatrics recently published an article suggesting that middle schools and high schools push back their start times to around 8:30 AM so that pre-teens and teens can get more much-needed sleep.  The reason for this is based on previous studies which showed that teens need more, not less sleep.

Nowadays, especially with heavy school work loads and over-scheduling of activities, adolescents are getting less sleep than they did in the days when they were expected to rise at dawn to help on the farm.  Another added distraction to sleep is the lure of devices – computers, tablets, video games, smart-phones, etc.  Not only do kids (and some adults) …

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Buried Alive?!

Sort of what the inside of the house looks like. Might be exaggerating a little.

Oh, my, my house is like an episode of hoarders.  I’ve said it before, but I think it’s gotten even worse.  From where I sit writing, I would have to maneuver around a couple of baskets full of folded laundry and two bags full of crafting supplies (abandoned after a couple of out-of-the-house crafting binges many months ago) and a plastic bin of ribbon and a couple of bins of fabric and a box of rolls of vinyl just to get to the television.  Oh, my.  The rest of the house is …

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Back to the grind.

It’s here!  Another summer come and gone; another school year starting.  Is it just me, or does the time between school years seem to go faster and faster?  As a kid, it seemed like summer went on forever.  As an adult, it seems like no time at all.  That is not to say that the days with three bored, whining and bickering children at home go quickly; it’s just that there never seems to be enough summer vacation to cram in everything we want to do.

I have to say, at the end of summer I always look forward to my kids going back to school.  It’s not that I …

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Friday Night, Old Folks Style

Okay.  If you’re reading this, chances are your kids are in high school.  Or older.  Let’s face it.  We’re getting older, too.  We just might be turning into those weird old people we made fun of when we were  teenagers.  It’s not just possible.  It’s almost certain.  Mark and I proved that yet again last weekend.

The girls were out with their boyfriends, doing cool stuff like camping on islands and eating at restaurants and going to movies at theaters with friends.  Mark and I, old people that we are becoming, had no plans at all.  It was getting to be dinner time and we did have some awesome steaks in …

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No Laughing Matter.

I think we were all stunned and saddened by the news of comedian Robin William’s sudden passing, made only more shocking and sad by the news that it seems he took his own life.  A beloved entertainer who made countless people laugh and smile…how could his personal reality be so bleak?  If there is one good thing that came out of such a tragedy, it is that the topic of suicide has been brought to the forefront.  Suicide is a terrible, scary thing to talk about and most people wouldn’t choose to do so.  With my professional background in social work and mental health I have worked with many …

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A Tale of Two Extremes

“It was the best of times. It was the worst of times.”  Ah, memories.  I remember reading “A Tale of Two Cities” in my freshman year of high school and discussing that book for weeks in Honors English.  And I remember being really fascinated by that opening line.  It was fascinating to a teen (at least this one, who actually read the book!), because the life of a teen really is just that…the best of times and the worst of times, isn’t it?  And I think the same can be said about the life of the parent of a teen.

It truly is the best part of life.  There’s a whole …

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E-cigs

I think we are all, parents and kids alike, well aware of the dangers of smoking.  When I was a kid most of the grown-ups I knew were smokers.  Most people were not aware of the innate dangers of habitual smoking.  Truth be told, most of the kids I knew had at one time or another been sent to the store to purchase cigarettes for a grown up.  Candy cigarettes were a norm (and tasty!).

I even remember using crayons as pretend cigs when I was a kid, not because I thought it was particularly “cool” or something I wanted to do, but because it was behavior that was modeled …

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Craft Day for Moms

That's my sign, with an Emerson quote.

Know what day it is?!  Know what day it is?! No, not Friday.  Or maybe it is.  I don’t really know what day you’re reading this, after all.  But the day I’m talking about, and so excited about, is craft day!  Specifically, it’s craft day for moms.

A while back, my friends and I were wandering around the beautiful, fancy boutiques in a nearby beach town, admiring the pretty artwork we couldn’t afford to buy or couldn’t bring ourselves to pay for because we figured we could make it cheaper depending on what piece of art we were looking at and who …

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Life and Death.

So much of our parenting teens is about preparing them for life; for going out into the world on their own and being healthy adults.  Unfortunately, sometimes part of preparing them for dealing with life includes dealing with death.  My family has dealt with their fair share of death.  We’ve lost family and friends due to natural causes, accidents, and even suicide.  In the past my kids were too young to really grasp the concept of death or to know the circumstances of the death.  As our children age, our way of helping them deal with death has to change as well.

We recently had a death in our family.  …

 

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