Opening the door to communication with your teen means that you should be prepared to talk about a whole host of topics. Some of those topics may be challenging, including teen dating.
Discovering that there may actually be a rhyme or reason to not just ‘what your teens think’ but ‘how they think’ may be news to parents. It may help to know that communication actually starts in the brain.
“Parents need to realize the rational part of a teen’s brain isn’t fully developed and won’t be until he or she is 25 years old or so,” says Jana Martin, Ph.D., a psychologist specializing in adolescents and a spokeswoman for the American Psychological Association.
Keeping an eye on your child’s brain development can help you understand whether they’re talking or not talking is something to be concerned about.
Signs of trouble
It’s normal for teens to be down …
Twitter and Facebook may be the best ways to connect and communicate, but the question on many parents’ minds is should they friend or follow their teen on the popular social networks? And if you do, how should you treat them?
Ask yourself what do you hope to gain by connecting to your teen online? Don’t use it as an opportunity to snoop on them. For many, seeing status updates is a great way to keep in touch without constantly needing to talk. For teens, it’s a great way to let everyone in their lives know what’s important to …
Teens love to text. It’s their No. 1 form of written communication. But what are some of the most popular abbreviations?
Even when you’re speaking the same language, you and your teen may not be communicating. Different words take on different meanings and each generation uses it in different ways.
It’s also a perfectly normal way for each age group to make language its own experience. Pamela Munro, a linguist and editor of the popular college slang dictionary UCLA Slang 6, says “Slang is a kind of code or password (that people use) if people are trying to show that they are a member of your group.”
“Most people start using active slang when they are in junior high.” By the age of 17 or 18, they have a fully developed slang vocabulary …
Even if you think you have a wonderful relationship with your child, when he or she becomes a teenager, communication may become a problem. A simple parent-child conversation often isn’t simple anymore when the child turns into an adolescent.
This month, we’re talking about how to communicate with your teens about a wide variety of topics — whether it’s about just how to start a conversation about anything, or how to talk to them about more difficult topics such as dating, school, drugs, smoking or alcohol.
Bring your questions and your challenges here and we’ll talk about them.
Here are some tips to jumpstart communication with your teen:
Pick a time when you’re both …
One of the themes kicking off next month is teen nutrition. I intend to clean up my eating habits in the new year and as the main cook around here, my kids have no choice but to go along with it.
A few weeks ago we had some friends over for chili night. Max was pretty insistent that he didn’t like chili, until he helped himself to a bowlful. Then he announced he does like chili, he just thought he didn’t! I bet there might be other things that Max might like once he tries them!
Part of my strategy for better eating …