Nicole Davies

Hello! My name is Nicole and I am a Marine spouse and mother of three daughters, ages 16, 10, and 7. I have been a stay-at-home mom most of their lives while also pursuing my Master’s degree in Marriage and Family Therapy. In the past I have worked as a social worker for child welfare in the state of Pennsylvania. I have also taught preschool for ages 2.5 - 4. During my master’s program I interned as a therapist at an inpatient psychiatric hospital working with adults, teens, and kids. My ultimate goal is to become an independently licensed therapist. Our family has lived in Onslow County for 10 of the last 15 years, which has given my children a stability that is rare among military families. While NC has been my home for several years now, I am still a Yankee at heart! I will always choose a Philly cheesesteak over a pulled-pork sandwich. In addition to taking care of my family and my educational pursuits, I enjoy traveling to destinations near and far; a novel in which I can get lost; and chatting with friends over a good cup of coffee.

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Deadly Days for Teens

I sit at my computer writing this piece on Memorial Day.  I read earlier in the week that this is the day that begins the “100 deadliest days for teens.”  That’s a pretty startling headline, isn’t it?
I guess it makes sense.  The spring and summer days draw teens to the road, heading to the beach and friends’ pools and parties.  And don’t forget graduation night.  And factor in those nights when teens are staying with friends, whose parents might be sounder sleepers or more permissive, or even under the impression that those teens were staying at your house….

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Farm Fresh Dinners are Summer’s Best

I totally love summer dinners.  I love those dinners that are completely simple…grilled meat and fresh fruits and veggies.  They are easy to prepare and simply delicious and seem to be favorites around our house.  And they make me feel like summer has really arrived.
We have enjoyed a couple of those delicious dinners lately.  Sunday Mark cooked some marinated chicken on the grill while I boiled fresh corn and steamed some broccoli from the farmer’s market inside.  It was all good, but that broccoli I got fresh from the farmer was just amazing.  It really does …

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Teens and Tattoos

If you’re in the market for a tattoo, Jacksonville is a pretty good place to get one.  There seem to be tattoo parlors everywhere.  And as I’ve watched my girls get older, I’ve noticed that a lot of their young friends have tattoos.  I find it pretty surprising that so many kids in high school already have tattoos.  I really hope my girls don’t get any tattoos.  I am not anti-tattoo, mind you.  But I find it hard to believe that there’s anything I’d want to live with forever printed on my skin.  I …

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Little Reminders…

Daylilies always make me think of Georgia and the drive to the lake in Alabama.It’s funny the things that remind us of the people in our lives.  Every single day some little item in the house or something I see while running the endless errands makes me stop and think of one of the people who have been important in my life.  I’ve noticed it more than usual lately.  And a couple of times it’s led me to reach out to one of those important people. 
I got to thinking about this phenomenon a couple of weeks ago when I …

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Mother’s Day Road Trip

As we sat down to lunch in the middle of moving Katie out of her dorm room, our only plan was to rest a bit and fill our bellies.  But by the time we left our booth, we had bigger plans in mind.  We were going on a road trip.
Mark and Katie and I started talking about what we were going to do for Mother’s Day.  Originally we planned to spend another day sitting on the beach, probably reading, and maybe go to dinner.  But then we started thinking about Mark’s mom, my favorite mother-in-law, also known as Granny….

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Moving Out

The view looking back from the driver's seat


I have dreaded it since the day we moved Katie into her dorm room…moving her out.  Every single time Katie came home from college and then headed back to Greenville with yet more stuff in her little car I have been dreading having to move all of her stuff back home.  In the last few months I have tried to suggest she start bringing some of that stuff home little by little, but without much success. 
We did manage to get her to sort through her things on our last visit …
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Birthday Girl

As Katie’s birthday approached, and I realized it was going to fall during exam week, I figured we’d celebrate Katie’s birthday away from our home for the first time ever.  I thought we’d head to campus and take her to dinner or something.  But, as it turns out, Katie managed to arrange for a much better celebration than that.  This kid has never been one to let her birthday go by without the maximum fun and fanfare, after all.
Katie did have an exam on her birthday, but it was scheduled for early in the morning.  So after the morning exam …

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Puppies as Stress Relief?

Sure wish I had a puppy pic, but glad she is studying!

Katie sent a text message last week that reminded me just how stressful exams are for our teens.  Well, she sent a lot of text messages and made lots of calls that made it very clear that she was super stressed about exams.  But there was one that really hit home because it was about an attempt someone made to sooth the stressed-out students as they studied:  “There are a ton of puppies in the library to play with!”  (Punctuation added by mom.  You are …
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Tests, Tornadoes, and Trapped (Hungry) Teens

Sorry I couldn't post the selfie of Katie trapped in the stairwell that she was kind enough to send me when I asked. She just might kill me if I shared that!


The weather around here has been a little crazy this year.  We’ve gone from snow and sleet to thunderstorms and tornadoes lately.  I’m not a big fan of either.  And with Katie away at school, this mom who likes to control things has had to sit far away from my girl and hope she is safe and being smart about the extreme weather.
Last week there were storms …
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Flap Over an App

I know, I know. Not a yak. But a cousin. I tried.


Oh, my.  Another app is making it possible for our kids to get into trouble!  To be fair, the app I saw discussed on television the other day was intended by its creators, a couple of college guys, to be used for positive things like helping out the people in your immediate area.  But, like many, many other apps and social networking tools, there is a subset of our young people who will use it to be just plain mean.
The new app is called Yik Yak….
 

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