Paula Patselas

I have now been blogging for Realiteen for almost two years and have thoroughly enjoyed the experience to share the ebb and flow of life with three teens in the house. I am well seasoned with the teen scene, but learn something new and exciting almost every day still. I am blessed to be the very proud mom of three teens: Kassiane, 17; Austin, 16; and Lydia, 15. Yes, you read correctly – stair step teens. They were once 1, 2 and 3, if you can only imagine. That part seems like a blur now – thank goodness for photos and video. It has all happened so quickly and now they are in 10th, 11th and 12th grades. One of the first thoughts that now comes to mind when I tell someone their ages is that they will graduate from high school three years running; and of course, that means beginning college three years running, too. That means three cars, three more insurance policies, oh the horrors. We will cross those bridges soon enough. For now, the household is bustling; even teaming with activity and commotion and that is putting it politely. The “we” I mention includes my husband, Doctor Tim, who is a general surgeon, and practices with Onslow Surgical Clinic. It goes almost without saying, he is a very busy husband/dad. The great news is that he is a very involved, hands-on kind of dad and always has been. He comes home, rolls up his sleeves and pitches in with whatever needs to be done to manage the group. Early on we realized that we would have our hands full and being that there are three of “them” and two of “us”, the odds were against us. It has been a challenge keeping our ship afloat and keeping the kids steered, but always a joy and we would have never had it any other way. I am a real multi-tasking mom, too, with quite a few irons in the fire. I am a registered nurse, since 1982, with a clinical background in trauma and critical care nursing. In recent years, my focus has been in nursing education at Onslow Memorial Hospital; however, during the past two years, I have also been working PRN(filling in as needed), in out-patient clinics at the Naval Hospital and MCAS. The flexibility of PRN works great with managing the busy schedules of the teens, yet allows me to keep connected with my profession. I also volunteer in their schools and for the past three years have been helping to re-invent the Onslow County Medical Society Alliance, a physician spouses’ organization. I’ve also been a long standing soccer mom, an avid gardener and love to cook. When I say, never a dull moment – it truly means, NEVER a dull moment. I look forward to more blogging and sharing about life with the stair step teens. Stay tuned!

mj-vieweg

Hi everyone! I’m Mary Jane Vieweg and I’m writer and mother navigating the teen years with my two sons, ages 11 and 14. This month, we’re talking about communication. One reason I want to develop good communication with my boys is because it is during the teen years when we have to have the BIG talks. The talks about sex, drugs, drinking and now parents have to add Internet safety to the list and probably reasonable use of a cell phone. I’ll be jumping in with my personal crusade of financial literacy by having ongoing talks (or in my kids’ view ongoing speeches )about wise spending and saving habits. I’ve come to think that it is easier to talk with my kids when we share some common ground, in other words stuff that will spark some conversation. Like any mom, I’d like to have a good relationship with my sons. Of course I want them to feel like they can come to me if they have a problem. Or even if they don’t. When something good happens, during their schoolday for instance, I am glad when they tell me about it. Usually it is a good test grade, or they found the missing homework at the last minute. Sometimes they even relate something funny one of their friends said. All those little exchanges are building up our communication habits, I think. For my boys to turn to me when they are troubled and sit through a BIG talk, they will need to feel comfortable anticipating my reaction. What I mean by that is if they anticipate a negative or dismissive attitude from me, my guess is that they will clam up. My common ground with my kids includes knowing my kids’ teachers and best buddies. What is your common ground with your teens? Click on the “reply” box below and let me know.

 

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