Nicole Davies

Hello! My name is Nicole and I am a Marine spouse and mother of three daughters, ages 16, 10, and 7. I have been a stay-at-home mom most of their lives while also pursuing my Master’s degree in Marriage and Family Therapy. In the past I have worked as a social worker for child welfare in the state of Pennsylvania. I have also taught preschool for ages 2.5 - 4. During my master’s program I interned as a therapist at an inpatient psychiatric hospital working with adults, teens, and kids. My ultimate goal is to become an independently licensed therapist. Our family has lived in Onslow County for 10 of the last 15 years, which has given my children a stability that is rare among military families. While NC has been my home for several years now, I am still a Yankee at heart! I will always choose a Philly cheesesteak over a pulled-pork sandwich. In addition to taking care of my family and my educational pursuits, I enjoy traveling to destinations near and far; a novel in which I can get lost; and chatting with friends over a good cup of coffee.

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All good things…

I Love these girls. Always.

They say all good things must come to an end.  And so it is with the my time writing for the MomTalk blogs.  This will be the last of my 697 (hard to believe that number!) blog entries.

I remember making the decision to write for Realiteen…reluctantly.  At the time I had little to no “online presence,” and I wasn’t sure about putting myself out there.  But I took the leap and started sharing my life with my teens and the ups and downs of the craziness that is parenting said teens.  And what a ride it’s been!

For a little over four years I have been sitting down in front of my computer every Monday morning, looking back over the past week and sharing the good, bad, and ugly of my parenting life.  When I began this journey, my girls were 17 and almost 15.  In my first post I shared that I thought my girls were “smart, beautiful, and full of promise,” and that they were different as night and day.  My short biography mentioned that I was “struggling every day to get it right” as a parent.

A lot has changed over those four years of Monday morning reflection.  My girls have graduated high school and moved on to college.  One of them is living on her own an hour and a half away from home.  We’ve moved the mini-van’s position in our lives to the vehicle of last resort and purchased three vehicles for our girls over the years and my days as taxi driver are long gone.  We’ve moved on from the cheerleading days and the hours of bleacher-sitting every week.  Our focus now is on getting the girls through the college years without mountains of debt for any of us and a more hands-off style of parenting where we are observers and advice-givers instead of making the decisions for our kids.

Despite all those changes, I still think my girls are smart and beautiful and full of promise.  And they continue to be so different from each other that it is hard to believe that they are both mine.  And I am still struggling every day to get it right as a parent.  Some things never change.

As my life started to move past the boundaries of Realiteen with no one actually attending high school any more and the teen years almost completely behind us, I realized that the struggle to sort out my role as a parent won’t ever really be finished, no matter how old my girls and I get.  I guess that’s one good thing that doesn’t come to an end.

As I end my time blogging for MomTalk, I want to extend thanks to those who gave me the chance to move out of my comfort zone and write for this blog and to all who stopped by to read my posts and share this journey through parenting in the teen years…and  to my girls…my reason for writing and my reason for just about everything else I’ve done for the past 21-plus years!  I can’t wait to see what the next four years bring!

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One Comment on “All good things…”

  • Bill Mercr October 16th, 2014 8:33 am

    Good job Karen. I know this will be like leaving another kid at school. I’ve enjoyed your “columns” and hope you will continue to share your knowledge and experience. Good luck!

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