Nicole Davies

Hello! My name is Nicole and I am a Marine spouse and mother of three daughters, ages 16, 10, and 7. I have been a stay-at-home mom most of their lives while also pursuing my Master’s degree in Marriage and Family Therapy. In the past I have worked as a social worker for child welfare in the state of Pennsylvania. I have also taught preschool for ages 2.5 - 4. During my master’s program I interned as a therapist at an inpatient psychiatric hospital working with adults, teens, and kids. My ultimate goal is to become an independently licensed therapist. Our family has lived in Onslow County for 10 of the last 15 years, which has given my children a stability that is rare among military families. While NC has been my home for several years now, I am still a Yankee at heart! I will always choose a Philly cheesesteak over a pulled-pork sandwich. In addition to taking care of my family and my educational pursuits, I enjoy traveling to destinations near and far; a novel in which I can get lost; and chatting with friends over a good cup of coffee.

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Parenting by Text Message

This selfie of a real A&W root beer float in a frosty mug (that Katie got to keep!) made me more than a little jealous.

This has been a very different summer for this parent.  I have had a bit of a break from the frantic activity that is the norm as a parent of a teen.  It truly has been a quiet summer since I sent Katie off to spend more than a month bouncing from one relative to another.  I find myself parenting mostly by text message these days.  For the most part, it’s much easier to parent a teen without actually living with the teen, especially since she’s with my sisters and mother in law and mother!

I have to admit, Katie is pretty easy to parent even in person.  She’s pretty well behaved and tame compared to a lot of teens.  She doesn’t really give us any trouble and she’s pretty happy as long as you’re not trying to wake her up early.  So I mostly miss her rather than reveling in some freedom.  But there have been a few challenges along the way.

The biggest worry has been related to her migraine issues.  Seems she needed to pay a visit to the neurologist to get a new prescription for her headache medicine and didn’t get it done soon enough.  She left here with a pretty limited supply, so I have been chatting with the pharmacists and the staff at the neurologist’s office trying to see what we can do about that.  I think she’s got enough to limp along until she makes it home.  And I managed to get an appointment scheduled for her for the day after my parents deliver her here.

I’ve also been trying to schedule other appointments for her during the short time between her arrival back here in Jacksonville and the date we need to move her to her new apartment in Greenville.  She needs to pay a visit to the dentist, the eye doctor, and the orthodontist.  I guess she could be making those appointments herself, but it’s kind of nice to have some parenting duties, I guess.  And it also gives her a better chance of actually getting those appointments made!

There really hasn’t been much parenting needed.  Like I said, she’s pretty well behaved and self-sufficient these days.  And she is spending this time with family, so she’s very well taken care of, maybe even a little spoiled?!  Most of my parenting seems to be eagerly awaiting her next message letting me know what she’s up to.  It makes me feel good every time she touches base with me.  I hear from her hosts that she’s been a good houseguest and a joy to have around.

And that makes me miss her even more.  This has been by far the longest stretch ever that I’ve been away from my baby girl.  I am pretty intensely jealous.  I’d love to be right there with her and all those people she’s visiting.  My jealousy is tempered by the knowledge that she’s having a great time and making really great memories.  Meanwhile, I wait for that ring tone that informs me that I have a new text message from Katie.  Thank goodness for text messaging and the ability to see pictures of all the fun while it’s still happening.

Parenting by text message might be a good warm-up for that day that’s coming, all too soon, when I have to get a grip and realize that my girl is an adult and not really in need of parenting at all, right?

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