Nicole Davies

Hello! My name is Nicole and I am a Marine spouse and mother of three daughters, ages 16, 10, and 7. I have been a stay-at-home mom most of their lives while also pursuing my Master’s degree in Marriage and Family Therapy. In the past I have worked as a social worker for child welfare in the state of Pennsylvania. I have also taught preschool for ages 2.5 - 4. During my master’s program I interned as a therapist at an inpatient psychiatric hospital working with adults, teens, and kids. My ultimate goal is to become an independently licensed therapist. Our family has lived in Onslow County for 10 of the last 15 years, which has given my children a stability that is rare among military families. While NC has been my home for several years now, I am still a Yankee at heart! I will always choose a Philly cheesesteak over a pulled-pork sandwich. In addition to taking care of my family and my educational pursuits, I enjoy traveling to destinations near and far; a novel in which I can get lost; and chatting with friends over a good cup of coffee.

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Homeless Teens

All his belongings fit into one backpack.

One of my friends has taken in a 16-year-old boy who doesn’t have a place to stay.  His parents live in the same town but he doesn’t stay with them and they are apparently fine with the arrangement if not in fact prefer it.  He has been staying with one friend and then another for some time.   My friend and her family know this boy and have known him for years.  But it took her a little while to come to the decision to open her home to him.  But when she made the decision, she told me she knew it was the right one.

Her daughter told her that the boy does not do well in school.  My friend thought that if he has a regular breakfast and adequate sleep, he just might do better at school.   The first night he stayed at her house, my friend said he polished off the leftovers from dinner and slept until midafternoon the next day.

My friend is not wealthy.  She has two kids of her own.   Taking this teenager in will mean transforming her computer room into another bedroom.  As of right now, she doesn’t yet have a bed for him.  When he went to a friend’s house to pick up his clothes and belongings, what he brought back with him would barely fill a backpack.  My friend will be buying him some clothes.

I can’t help but wonder how a 16-year-old boy processes the fact that he doesn’t have a home.  He may not be a child but he is not an adult yet either.  At 16, there is only so much he can do on his own and that isn’t much.

It is a sobering fact that there is one teenager in this situation here in town.  Because if there is one, might there be others? 

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3 Comments on “Homeless Teens”

  • Paula Patselas August 14th, 2012 8:30 pm

    I hate to let you know – YES, there are others! The situations I know of have come to be due to various domestic/ broken home issues and the teen child has been the one to be displaced. It seems that this is not so uncommon. I too, have friends who have taken in displaced teens, making sacrifices and adjustments to make it happen; we have been directly involved with assisting to help provide for at least two such teens in the last 2 years. It is sad but thank goodness there are those with open hearts who are willing to take a risk and help out a child in need.

  • MJ August 15th, 2012 12:49 pm

    Hi Paula, thanks for your comment. I was really hoping for some discussion on this post. This kid’s parents are still together, by the way. There is such a variety of family dynamics out there, isn’t there? It is a sad commentary on our society..

    Good for you for getting involved when you could! Your family demonstrated compassion and hospitality toward others and I am sure you all understand the difference you made in the lives of those two teens.

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