Nicole Davies

Hello! My name is Nicole and I am a Marine spouse and mother of three daughters, ages 16, 10, and 7. I have been a stay-at-home mom most of their lives while also pursuing my Master’s degree in Marriage and Family Therapy. In the past I have worked as a social worker for child welfare in the state of Pennsylvania. I have also taught preschool for ages 2.5 - 4. During my master’s program I interned as a therapist at an inpatient psychiatric hospital working with adults, teens, and kids. My ultimate goal is to become an independently licensed therapist. Our family has lived in Onslow County for 10 of the last 15 years, which has given my children a stability that is rare among military families. While NC has been my home for several years now, I am still a Yankee at heart! I will always choose a Philly cheesesteak over a pulled-pork sandwich. In addition to taking care of my family and my educational pursuits, I enjoy traveling to destinations near and far; a novel in which I can get lost; and chatting with friends over a good cup of coffee.


Unfounded Concerns

My daughter recently approached me with a very disturbing conversation. She was concerned about one of her friend’s eating habits.

My daughter spent a week with this friend at summer camp and was with her twenty-four hours a day. She noticed that this friend was barely eating anything at all. She said her friend ate extremely small portions or nothing at all.  The issue was not a matter of disliking the camp fare because it was the same food that they have served for years. She also told me that the friend had recently lost quite a bit of weight; weight that she did not need to lose.

Our conversation reminded me of the last time I was with the two of them and had noticed that the friend had indeed lost weight and of her talking about being on a diet. My comment to her at that time was that she did not need to lose weight and should not be dieting. My daughter and another friend confronted her with their concerns and were given excuses, explanations, and defenses.  After the conversation with my daughter, I decided to confront the friend’s mother with our concerns. She, too, had noticed some disturbing eating habits and decided to discuss the issue with her daughter. Her daughter told her that she couldn’t eat because of stomach issues and not because of eating issues.  We all felt satisfied with her explanation; however, I decided to go to Onslow Memorial Hospital’s website to research the subject further.  Please visit this article for more information.

Fortunately, our concerns proved to be unfounded; however, I am very proud of my daughter and her concern for her friend.  I’m proud that she was brave enough to confront her friend about such a sensitive topic.  Sometimes being a good friend is a difficult job.

Do your teens know anyone with eating disorders and how did they handle the situation?

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2 Comments on “Unfounded Concerns”

  • Maddie August 26th, 2011 2:36 pm

    I’ve tried to help a friend through an eating disorder situation one time. I think that if the person is really serious about it that it’s important to get them professional help with a couselor or therapist because it’s close to impossible to get through to them for any length of time. Even if they do improve, they never quite fully get over it.

  • Karen Felix August 27th, 2011 10:22 pm

    I agree that those with eating disorders should speak with a professional. Fortunately, we feel our friend has a health issue and not an eating disorder.

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