Nicole Davies

Hello! My name is Nicole and I am a Marine spouse and mother of three daughters, ages 16, 10, and 7. I have been a stay-at-home mom most of their lives while also pursuing my Master’s degree in Marriage and Family Therapy. In the past I have worked as a social worker for child welfare in the state of Pennsylvania. I have also taught preschool for ages 2.5 - 4. During my master’s program I interned as a therapist at an inpatient psychiatric hospital working with adults, teens, and kids. My ultimate goal is to become an independently licensed therapist. Our family has lived in Onslow County for 10 of the last 15 years, which has given my children a stability that is rare among military families. While NC has been my home for several years now, I am still a Yankee at heart! I will always choose a Philly cheesesteak over a pulled-pork sandwich. In addition to taking care of my family and my educational pursuits, I enjoy traveling to destinations near and far; a novel in which I can get lost; and chatting with friends over a good cup of coffee.

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Not Cheering, For Sure

An old picture, from middle school

Followers of this blog will remember that Katie has had quite a year as a cheerleader.  She suffered two concussions while cheering this year, one while acting as a base in a stunt (the girls who lift, support, throw, and catch the others), and one as a flier (the girls who are lifted, thrown, and USUALLY caught).

While we were in the hospital after the second accident, she told me she was done with cheerleading. The doctors didn’t tell her she had to be done. But they seemed glad to hear her say she was going to quit.  I, too, was relieved to hear her say she was finished. Watching my child deal with a brain injury was scary and worrisome, to say the least.

But I wondered how she’d deal with the loss of this sport that she loved. Before the second accident, she was pretty excited about her return to cheering and had begun flying again on both the school and competitive teams. She loved being tossed into the air, the higher the better. I didn’t know how she’d feel when she watched the other girls going back for another year.

So I was not surprised when she came to me late at night last weekend, and said she thought she wanted to try out for the high school team again. My heart was heavy and I tried to remind her about the dangers of multiple concussions. She told me she’d talk to the coach about some limits before she tried out. She seemed to have a reasonable amount of caution in mind, so I told her that as long as the coaches understood her limits and the doctors gave the go-ahead when we got her sports physical I would allow her to try out.

But I was very uneasy with the whole idea of a return to the sport where she’d been injured twice in the past year.  I made sure to describe in great detail her two concussions to the doctor who performed her sports physical. I had mixed feelings when he signed the papers that would allow her to try out.

But Katie was determined to give it another shot. I drove her to the school on the first day of tryouts with a heavy heart. I picked her up and she told me her tumbling was actually pretty good after having not even tried for months. She said she’d done fine. But she had an awful headache when she got home from the loud, hot gym.

I was relieved when she told me she would not be going to the second day of tryouts.  She had decided that she didn’t want to put herself through an entire summer of practices.

I was glad she had given it a shot. I don’t want her to put herself in danger, but I want the decision to be hers.  She has a good head on her shoulders, this one. And maybe one that won’t be injured again!

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2 Comments on “Not Cheering, For Sure”

  • Paula Patselas June 2nd, 2011 11:46 pm

    Katie has made the right choice. A concussion is a serious injury and having had more than one concussion in the past year is even more serious. Many other great opportunities will come her way and at least she will have her intact faculties about her to enjoy such opportunities.

  • Karen June 3rd, 2011 2:49 pm

    I think it’s the best choice, too, and I’m glad she made it herself. Thanks for all your help and good advice along the way with this stuff.

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