Paula Patselas

I have now been blogging for Realiteen for almost two years and have thoroughly enjoyed the experience to share the ebb and flow of life with three teens in the house. I am well seasoned with the teen scene, but learn something new and exciting almost every day still. I am blessed to be the very proud mom of three teens: Kassiane, 17; Austin, 16; and Lydia, 15. Yes, you read correctly – stair step teens. They were once 1, 2 and 3, if you can only imagine. That part seems like a blur now – thank goodness for photos and video. It has all happened so quickly and now they are in 10th, 11th and 12th grades. One of the first thoughts that now comes to mind when I tell someone their ages is that they will graduate from high school three years running; and of course, that means beginning college three years running, too. That means three cars, three more insurance policies, oh the horrors. We will cross those bridges soon enough. For now, the household is bustling; even teaming with activity and commotion and that is putting it politely. The “we” I mention includes my husband, Doctor Tim, who is a general surgeon, and practices with Onslow Surgical Clinic. It goes almost without saying, he is a very busy husband/dad. The great news is that he is a very involved, hands-on kind of dad and always has been. He comes home, rolls up his sleeves and pitches in with whatever needs to be done to manage the group. Early on we realized that we would have our hands full and being that there are three of “them” and two of “us”, the odds were against us. It has been a challenge keeping our ship afloat and keeping the kids steered, but always a joy and we would have never had it any other way. I am a real multi-tasking mom, too, with quite a few irons in the fire. I am a registered nurse, since 1982, with a clinical background in trauma and critical care nursing. In recent years, my focus has been in nursing education at Onslow Memorial Hospital; however, during the past two years, I have also been working PRN(filling in as needed), in out-patient clinics at the Naval Hospital and MCAS. The flexibility of PRN works great with managing the busy schedules of the teens, yet allows me to keep connected with my profession. I also volunteer in their schools and for the past three years have been helping to re-invent the Onslow County Medical Society Alliance, a physician spouses’ organization. I’ve also been a long standing soccer mom, an avid gardener and love to cook. When I say, never a dull moment – it truly means, NEVER a dull moment. I look forward to more blogging and sharing about life with the stair step teens. Stay tuned!

bill-mercer

Schools

Probably most of our readers have one thing in common. Back to school. The same is very true at my house, in a big way.  Molly is no longer here, she is in Greenville.  Her absence is being greatly felt. She has spent most of the summer at her Nana and Papa’s beach house in Surf City so it’s not as if we haven’t “eased” into this transition. The emotional part is a little harder, for all of us. The reality is that she probably won’t ever see this as her main address again. Even that truth is difficult for me to write.

When you have grown accustomed to “back to school” meaning “back to the family unit” under one roof, change comes hard. We miss her. Her room is clean, the bathroom is picked up and the hamper is manageable. There is a calmness around here that is unsettling. She is my daughter, I think that says it all. Drew, the more outwardly emotional of my two sons (much like me) has mentioned the void her absence creates, several times. John just shakes his head in agreement.

We are confident in Molly’s ability to adapt. If anything, she has a terrific ability to adjust to different situations. No real worries there. I expect her to do well in managing her schedule between school and work. She is in a good situation. We three guys have to adjust right along with her. We can’t wait to see her.  Talk to you soon.

How are you handling it?

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5 Comments on “Schools”

  • Onslow Theckla Onslow Theckla September 2nd, 2010 4:04 pm

    There is a wonderful and touching vulnerability to this post, Bill. How are you and the boys doing?

  • Bill Mercer September 2nd, 2010 4:33 pm

    We stay real busy and that helps. Molly certainly leaves a void that is very difficult to fill. We miss her terribly to be quite honest.

  • Bill Mercer September 2nd, 2010 4:33 pm

    Thanks Theckla!

  • Paula Patselas September 4th, 2010 11:03 am

    Hi Bill,

    I can truly say I know how you feel – as Kass has left our household too. It feels really different here as well – strangely different! I’ve almost called out her name up the stairs several times. The family dynamic has definitely shifted. My only saving grace is that I know she is happy.

  • bill mercer September 4th, 2010 11:15 am

    Iknow we still have a full plate, even more so in some respects. Time marches on.

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