Paula Patselas

I have now been blogging for Realiteen for almost two years and have thoroughly enjoyed the experience to share the ebb and flow of life with three teens in the house. I am well seasoned with the teen scene, but learn something new and exciting almost every day still. I am blessed to be the very proud mom of three teens: Kassiane, 17; Austin, 16; and Lydia, 15. Yes, you read correctly – stair step teens. They were once 1, 2 and 3, if you can only imagine. That part seems like a blur now – thank goodness for photos and video. It has all happened so quickly and now they are in 10th, 11th and 12th grades. One of the first thoughts that now comes to mind when I tell someone their ages is that they will graduate from high school three years running; and of course, that means beginning college three years running, too. That means three cars, three more insurance policies, oh the horrors. We will cross those bridges soon enough. For now, the household is bustling; even teaming with activity and commotion and that is putting it politely. The “we” I mention includes my husband, Doctor Tim, who is a general surgeon, and practices with Onslow Surgical Clinic. It goes almost without saying, he is a very busy husband/dad. The great news is that he is a very involved, hands-on kind of dad and always has been. He comes home, rolls up his sleeves and pitches in with whatever needs to be done to manage the group. Early on we realized that we would have our hands full and being that there are three of “them” and two of “us”, the odds were against us. It has been a challenge keeping our ship afloat and keeping the kids steered, but always a joy and we would have never had it any other way. I am a real multi-tasking mom, too, with quite a few irons in the fire. I am a registered nurse, since 1982, with a clinical background in trauma and critical care nursing. In recent years, my focus has been in nursing education at Onslow Memorial Hospital; however, during the past two years, I have also been working PRN(filling in as needed), in out-patient clinics at the Naval Hospital and MCAS. The flexibility of PRN works great with managing the busy schedules of the teens, yet allows me to keep connected with my profession. I also volunteer in their schools and for the past three years have been helping to re-invent the Onslow County Medical Society Alliance, a physician spouses’ organization. I’ve also been a long standing soccer mom, an avid gardener and love to cook. When I say, never a dull moment – it truly means, NEVER a dull moment. I look forward to more blogging and sharing about life with the stair step teens. Stay tuned!

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It was love at last sight

It was love at first sight 16 years ago when we adopted our oldest teen, Kassiane. She was two days old we we “first” cast eyes upon her. She was cute as a bug with a head full of curly hair and beautiful blue eyes. For years, everywhere we went someone commented not only about the curly mane, but on how beautiful she was. She was a great baby, a bright, cute little toddler, a quiet adolescent, and then all of a sudden, she became a striking, accomplished artsy teenager.

How did it happen so quickly, I keep asking myself each day? Not only that – but my other two teens right on the heels of Kass, are becoming all grown up too, now both also in high school.

My head spins to consider it all. Just now, over these past few weeks and especially the last few days, my focus has been very much on Kass, since she has flown from the nest and is away at art school. We checked her in last week, the culmination of weeks of preparation, packing and planning. She was SO excited that I couldn’t help but feel the excitement too – only I felt reservation and anxiety along with the excitement at the thought of driving away from that school and coming home without her.

She was immediately at home; smiling, laughing and quickly joining friends that she had known previously during summer sessions. She was completely at ease, familiar with her surroundings, and ready to begin a new chapter in her young life. My feelings are so mixed – excited to death for her in this great opportunity and the chance to fly on her own; yet, my heart tugs and feels heavy knowing she won’t be home with our family except some occasional week-ends, holidays, and of course, next summer. Is it Thanksgiving yet? We parted from her on the campus quietly, without alot of drama from me. She was anxious to re-join her friends waiting at the bottom of the hill. We hugged and kissed – I cried. She flew down the hill like a lovely bird. It was love at last sight ( at least until we skype!).

What  are some other departing scenarios from parents whose teens have just taken flight to college or elsewhere?

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2 Comments on “It was love at last sight”

  • Bill Mercer September 2nd, 2010 4:42 pm

    That was excellent. Sad stuff and yet amazing. I still think of them as much younger in my minds eye. Weird. I know that Kass will do well and make you and Tim proud.

  • Karen September 2nd, 2010 6:18 pm

    We miss Kass down on this end of the street, too. I can’t imagine how hard it was to leave her at school, but I think it’s great that you support her in her love of art enough to let her go.

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