Nicole Davies

Hello! My name is Nicole and I am a Marine spouse and mother of three daughters, ages 16, 10, and 7. I have been a stay-at-home mom most of their lives while also pursuing my Master’s degree in Marriage and Family Therapy. In the past I have worked as a social worker for child welfare in the state of Pennsylvania. I have also taught preschool for ages 2.5 - 4. During my master’s program I interned as a therapist at an inpatient psychiatric hospital working with adults, teens, and kids. My ultimate goal is to become an independently licensed therapist. Our family has lived in Onslow County for 10 of the last 15 years, which has given my children a stability that is rare among military families. While NC has been my home for several years now, I am still a Yankee at heart! I will always choose a Philly cheesesteak over a pulled-pork sandwich. In addition to taking care of my family and my educational pursuits, I enjoy traveling to destinations near and far; a novel in which I can get lost; and chatting with friends over a good cup of coffee.

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Just Thinking

Sometimes I don’t feel like writing. My mind is jumbled and I feel like shutting down for awhile. Ever feel like that? I feel that way right now. The reality of that is that a parent can’t ever really take much time for themselves. I have come to realize that. Life is so fast and unpredictable. Right now I have just put some dishes in the dishwasher, put some clothes in the dryer and have taken some chops out to cook on the grill. Before that I got some vegetables from the garden for a salad. Like most everybody else on the planet, I worked today. I have learned a lot about being a multi-tasker over the last 5 years. Before that, multi-tasking consisted of balancing a totally different lifestyle, suffice it to say. Irony can be cruel. I keep thinking about Molly in Greenville. The boys are right down the street and will be back soon.

When we start trying to analyze our lives and where we can improve it can be paralyzing. I think it is better to “simplify”.  Seems the closer I get in touch with my spiritual self, the easier to cope with the complexities of my life.  I am immersed in responsibility. I expect to be good at it and if I’m honest I have no idea what “good” is. I think it’s lucky to be good. It is complicated to evoke so many different feelings in so many different people. I have come to the point where the more it matters what my children think, the more it matters what others think too.

That is the point of living well, I believe. Sure, it is important to achieve.  We all keep score but are we sure, or unsure, of the game itself. It is important to love and be loved. It is important what people think, at least the people that really count.  I have yet to figure out where that line is drawn. Everybody counts. What our kids should always know is that everybody is watching. There is a lesson embedded in every minute of our existence. Call it a purpose driven life or whatever you want. When we say “I don’t care what anybody thinks” we are lying, at least I am. We all make mistakes, sometimes over and over again. Somewhere in all of us there is a yearning for goodness, for satisfaction. Do we ever get it? I can’t say. There will always be a “cliche” to refute such ramblings. All I can do for my children is try to simplify very complex issues. What’s it all about? Why are we here? To please God. Talk to you soon.

What do you do to keep it together?

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One Comment on “Just Thinking”

  • D Will August 2nd, 2017 11:34 am

    Bill, it was refreshing to read this post on a number of levels. I also ask myself some of these deep questions. I believe simplify is the answer that’s constant through life’s valleys and peeks.

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