Your Teen and Interracial Dating
Are you concerned about your teen and their choice for a boyfriend or girlfriend because of their skin color? A lot parents would like to say they don’t care as long as their child is happy. I used to say the same thing, but when stared me directly in the face, it was a different situation.
The reason I brought this up is although my daughter isn’t dating, I often hear her talk about certain guys. I have noticed that none of these guys are African American. I personally don’t have a problem with her dating outside of her race because I do, but I am worried about how she will be accepted by other races.
The way I feel probably goes back to when my cousin came to live with me. He always had friends of every ethnicity and they were always welcome to my home. There came a time when started dating. He ended up having a girlfriend of another race. Now I wasn’t the one that had a problem with it, but her parents absolutely forbid her to date outside her race. At the time I didn’t know whether I should have gotten involved or stayed out of it because it was just high school. Then I thought, well this isn’t fair to him to carry on the relationship knowing her parents disliked him because his pigment is darker. Then I thought, what if they find out and kick her out. She won’t have anywhere to go and I knew I couldn’t take her in.
In the end, they finally went their separate ways. I told the young lady that if it was real love, when they graduated and were on their own, the love would still be there and nobody could come between them. We all want our kids to be happy, but we also want them to be accepted.
I would seriously like to know how you all would handle this situation. If you knew that the boyfriend/ girlfriends parent would not approve, would you step in or just let it play out?
I would let it play out as long no one get hurt.
Because when they is in high school sometime its just for that time
Once children become teens or older, parents or signficant other no longer has total control. There comes a time that advice, guidance and support is what a parent can offer a child or loved one in a decisive time, not necessarily clear cut ‘answers”. Each stage of life is learning stage. I think to offer advice, and guidance is what you can do and did do. Ultimately, the teen has to make decisions on his or her own. Will they make mistakes? Yes. But I would say in this case, things worked out. Somehow the issue resolved itself in a natural way.
Yes it did resovle itself in a natural way. Now if only all of the other situations could turn out just the same, my life would definitely be easy breezy, lol!