Mary Jane Vieweg

Hi everyone! I’m Mary Jane Vieweg and I’m writer and mother navigating the teen years with my two sons, ages 11 and 14. This month, we’re talking about communication. One reason I want to develop good communication with my boys is because it is during the teen years when we have to have the BIG talks. The talks about sex, drugs, drinking and now parents have to add Internet safety to the list and probably reasonable use of a cell phone. I’ll be jumping in with my personal crusade of financial literacy by having ongoing talks (or in my kids’ view ongoing speeches )about wise spending and saving habits. I’ve come to think that it is easier to talk with my kids when we share some common ground, in other words stuff that will spark some conversation. Like any mom, I’d like to have a good relationship with my sons. Of course I want them to feel like they can come to me if they have a problem. Or even if they don’t. When something good happens, during their schoolday for instance, I am glad when they tell me about it. Usually it is a good test grade, or they found the missing homework at the last minute. Sometimes they even relate something funny one of their friends said. All those little exchanges are building up our communication habits, I think. For my boys to turn to me when they are troubled and sit through a BIG talk, they will need to feel comfortable anticipating my reaction. What I mean by that is if they anticipate a negative or dismissive attitude from me, my guess is that they will clam up. My common ground with my kids includes knowing my kids’ teachers and best buddies. What is your common ground with your teens? Click on the “reply” box below and let me know.

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Poor Showmanship Among Some Parents!

Poor Parental Showmanship!

Some parents at high school sporting events should be ashamed of themselves.  It just amazes me how some parents handle themselves when their son or daughter is participating in a high school sport.  Poor showmanship seems to be a common act of childish behavior among some adults.

We recently attended a wrestling tournament among area high schools, and sat a few seats down from some of the most obnoxious parents.  I could not believe the way some of the parents spoke to their children.

Many of the comments coming from parents about their own children sounded quite rude.  I heard one parent call their son a …

mj-vieweg

Mom’s Annual Inspection

Are you better at taking care of your kid's health than your own?

I took the van in last week for its annual inspection and emission test.  For some reason that prompted me to wonder when was the last time I had a physical.  A head-to-toe check with blood work.  It is enough to say, “Not recently.”

I like to think I’m fairly healthy.  My diet may not be stellar but I do exercise most days every week.  I actually like to push heavy weights at the gym.  Even if the weight room is ringed with floor-to-ceiling mirrors.

But thinking I am healthy is not the same as knowing I …

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Something New and (P)interesting

Oh, my goodness.  I did not need another way to waste time on the internet.  That’s why I never looked up Pinterest even though I was constantly hearing friends talk about all the interesting things they found on that site.  But the other day Katie told me about something she saw on Pinterest and that was the last straw.  I went ahead and found the site via google search and I am afraid I am hooked.  I went so far as to request and invitation to join.  I may never get anything done again in my life.

I have to admit I’m not totally sure how it all works.  But my …

paula-patselas

Lost and Found


There is simply never a dull moment at my house. As if three teenagers and Grandma don’t provide enough entertainment, let’s just add one more variable to the mix on a Friday afternoon. Just as I took some deep breaths at the prospect of a quiet week-end about to unfold, the cards began to fall in a different way than I had planned. That is what I get for even thinking about a peaceful plan!

First off on Friday am, the news came that Austin’s out of town soccer tournament was cancelled due to wet soggy field conditions. Darn! Tim was to head out of town with him for the WHOLE weekend …

karen-felix

Life Lesson Learned

This weekend we had a minor emotional crisis to deal with in our home.  We had to help our daughter learn a tough life lesson.  This is something that most adults have difficulty accepting.  Sometimes, even when you give your best, life is not fair and your efforts go unnoticed and unrewarded.

As a parent, I always hate to see my children hurt but I also realize that this is a part of life and a part of growing up.  You cannot protect your children from these painful lessons.  As a matter of fact, these are the lessons that help mold a child into an adult.  The way in which they …

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Paving and Grading

Drew

Success breeds success and it is infectious. There is nothing like success to build on and my children are not much different than their circle of friends.  For the most part, they work hard in school and stay just far enough away from trouble. They understand that in all things they are representing more than just themselves.  I have had to get on my own kids—-a bunch. I’ve had occasion to have a “chat” or two with some of the brotherhood as well. John and Drew are very typical teenagers in many ways, which I happen to think is cool. Along with doing pretty well …

tia-bandavanis

Teen Electronic Media Addiction

Does your teen suffer from electronic media addiction?

Does your teen like to send and receive text messages, listen to music using an  ipod, MP3, etc., or spend time playing a video game or face-booking online?  Well if your teen is like mine then the answer is yes.  My teen is definitely addicted to some form of electronic media.  Is it a bad addiction for our teens?  My answer is no.

However, I do feel there should be some guidelines and usage should be monitored.  I do know many teens who do not own a cell phone, a computer, or other electronic media.  Therefore, it seems as if it …

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Un-Civil Society

Maybe bullying is still tolerated too much these days.

A friend and I met for coffee to catch up.  She had worked on a media project promoting Teen Suicide Awareness and talked about how widespread the problem teen suicide was.  I asked for her views about why a teen might take his/her own life.

My friend say, “Bullying. And we live in a society that tolerates it.”  She talked about how she did not allow her children to watch many of the ‘popular’ shows because they seemed to portray and promote a type of coarseness in social interactions that has become the norm these days, even if many of us  …

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I’m Gonna Miss This

Someday soon I'm going to miss shopping for things to fill this lunch box.

I have a part-time job as a photographer’s assistant and I love it.  We’ve recently been taking lots of pictures of expectant moms and brand-new babies.  Oh, my goodness!  Those pregnant moms and days-old babies bring back the memories for this mom of teens.

Just this past weekend, we attended a cheer-leading competition to watch Katie and her high school teammates compete with the other schools in the conference.  Part of the awards ceremony is the recognition of all the seniors on the squads.  As I watched all these girls line up and listened …

karen-felix

Summer Plans

We are in the process of deciding my daughter’s summer intensive plans.  Her auditions went well and now she must choose which school to attend.  Either way, she will be away during the summer for at least four weeks.  This summer will be the third in a row that she will be away for so long.

However, for the past two summers, she has been in North Carolina and I could visit her whenever I wanted or whenever I felt she needed a mom’s comforting ear and shoulder.  More than likely, this year she will be in Texas.   That’s a bit too far for me to just get in the car …

 

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